What to do when life gives you a shit storm

We all know what I am talking about. Things go wrong, then more things, then wth? #allthethings are shit. It adds up, it piles on, and it feels overwhelming. I am going to give you some advice based on my last couple weeks of stress.

Here’s what was happening: I am in contest prep and dieting with very little carbs (read: HANGRY). I am working full-time in a new job and having to deal with some “interesting” personalities. My grandma was sick and hospitalized. It was shark week (PMS!! Hello?). My boyfriend and I were making plans to move in together and it gets complicated at times. I found out I have a heart problem that limits my exercise. And on top of it all,  I was working out twice a day (exhausting).

As you can imagine, I lost my shit. Broke down. Cried for a few days. Ate #allthecarbs I could get my hands on and then felt super duper guilty about it all. I felt like something was wrong with me. Why is this happening to me? My inner toddler was yelling, “no fair!!” and “me, me, me first!”

Yikes.

But guess what? I got through it because that is what people do. My inner strength comes from the difficult stuff I have to go through. My physical strength comes from barbells.

Here is some advice to deal with life’s shit storms because it all ain’t sunshine and rainbows.

  1. Accept it

Life happens. Some things we cannot control. Let it go. My best example is traffic-it happens. I cannot control it. I can just plug in my iPhone, listen to some sweet jams and sing my little heart out.

Things are exactly the way they are supposed to be.

An excerpt from the Big Book that is applicable to all people:

“Acceptance is the answer to all my problems to all my problems today.When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation – some facet of my life unacceptable, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.”

2. Don’t be a Victim

Self-pity will get you nowhere. Unfortunately, life happens as it does. Fortunately, it is our responsibility to choose how we respond to life changes and adversities. Asking “why me?” and saying “it’s not fair” will only serve to cause you emotional distress. There is no magic fairness fairy. It is up to us to choose our happiness.

“People always blame their circumstances for what

they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people

who get on in the world are the people who get up

and look for the circumstances they want and if they

can’t find them, make them.” 

George Bernard Shaw

(Reference: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happiness-purpose/201305/refuse-self-pity)

3. Gratitude

Right now, the world is at war. So if you tell me you have nothing  to be grateful for, then stop reading this immediately.

Making a list of 3 things you are thankful for each day will make a world of difference in how you live your life.

Sometimes, I am simply thankful for track pants, coffee, and Nikes. Other days, I recognize how truly blessed I am surrounded by love and kindness.

4. Ask for Help

Don’t do it alone. That sucks and it’s stupid. Ask for help from friends and family. Call a crisis line. There are resources. Use them! You do not have to suffer. People are there to help you. Don’t feel guilty. If your loved one ask you for help, would you ignore them? I doubt it.

And lastly, 5. Take Care of Yourself!

Self-care is sooo important. SLEEP 8 hours. Read a good book. Watch a funny show on Netflix. Laugh. Dance. Go to the gym. Go for a walk. Go tanning. Plan a dream vacation! Have a bath. Paint your nails. Paint some canvas. Take a class you’ve never tried before. Get a massage or pedicure. Run. Play outside. Go shopping. Hug someone. Make a delicious dinner or dessert.

Do something nice for yourself. You absolutely 100% deserve it.

I hope this helps. It works for me so I am passing it along and hope it may work for you.

Love, Katie xo

 

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Weight Loss Rant and Some Help

I love fitness, working out, and living a healthy life. I am good at it because I work so hard for it! It has taken  lots of years to figure even a small amount of things out.

I want to talk a bit about weight loss!

I know a few things: 1. Consistency is key, 2. You have to believe in yourself and love yourself FIRST before you can make any significant changes, and 3. You cannot starve yourself skinny. This is unhealthy and it doesn’t work. Let’s talk about point #3 here. I am angry today because of some BS I was reading today. I was getting my nails done (yes, I am girly like that) and reading magazines. US Life and Style listed a great, new diet to lose 15 pounds in a week so you can look like Kate Hudson!

Here it is:

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The daily calories range from 900-1100 calories per day. THIS IS RIDICULOUS.

I can tell you, that the only thing this “diet” will do is wreak havoc on your body especially if sustained for long periods of time.

Stress hormones (cortisol) increase which lead to leptin and insulin resistance (this will cause weight GAIN). You may even lose your period and increase risk of infertility. Not only that, you’ll probably end up being moody as hell and no one will want to be around you. You’ll be constipated, not sleeping well, cold all the time, and your hair will fall out in chunks (1). Yay!!…..because maybe you might get skinny?

IF you are really struggling to lose weight, make sure you are eating enough calories because it can be just as detrimental to your health as eating too much.

If you think you may have an eating disorder, seek professional help. One good resource I have found is: http://www.nedic.ca/  as well as CAMH and obviously, my favourite place (because I am an alumni!), Homewood!

Another tip, don’t try to look like Kate Hudson or Gwyneth Paltrow or Jessica Alba. YOU ARE YOU and you are NOT THEM. Be yourself and love yourself. Damn girl, ain’t nobody gonna change that.

xo, Katie

 

  1. https://chriskresser.com/are-you-an-under-eater-8-signs-youre-not-eating-enough/