What to do when life gives you a shit storm

We all know what I am talking about. Things go wrong, then more things, then wth? #allthethings are shit. It adds up, it piles on, and it feels overwhelming. I am going to give you some advice based on my last couple weeks of stress.

Here’s what was happening: I am in contest prep and dieting with very little carbs (read: HANGRY). I am working full-time in a new job and having to deal with some “interesting” personalities. My grandma was sick and hospitalized. It was shark week (PMS!! Hello?). My boyfriend and I were making plans to move in together and it gets complicated at times. I found out I have a heart problem that limits my exercise. And on top of it all,  I was working out twice a day (exhausting).

As you can imagine, I lost my shit. Broke down. Cried for a few days. Ate #allthecarbs I could get my hands on and then felt super duper guilty about it all. I felt like something was wrong with me. Why is this happening to me? My inner toddler was yelling, “no fair!!” and “me, me, me first!”

Yikes.

But guess what? I got through it because that is what people do. My inner strength comes from the difficult stuff I have to go through. My physical strength comes from barbells.

Here is some advice to deal with life’s shit storms because it all ain’t sunshine and rainbows.

  1. Accept it

Life happens. Some things we cannot control. Let it go. My best example is traffic-it happens. I cannot control it. I can just plug in my iPhone, listen to some sweet jams and sing my little heart out.

Things are exactly the way they are supposed to be.

An excerpt from the Big Book that is applicable to all people:

“Acceptance is the answer to all my problems to all my problems today.When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation – some facet of my life unacceptable, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.”

2. Don’t be a Victim

Self-pity will get you nowhere. Unfortunately, life happens as it does. Fortunately, it is our responsibility to choose how we respond to life changes and adversities. Asking “why me?” and saying “it’s not fair” will only serve to cause you emotional distress. There is no magic fairness fairy. It is up to us to choose our happiness.

“People always blame their circumstances for what

they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people

who get on in the world are the people who get up

and look for the circumstances they want and if they

can’t find them, make them.” 

George Bernard Shaw

(Reference: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happiness-purpose/201305/refuse-self-pity)

3. Gratitude

Right now, the world is at war. So if you tell me you have nothing  to be grateful for, then stop reading this immediately.

Making a list of 3 things you are thankful for each day will make a world of difference in how you live your life.

Sometimes, I am simply thankful for track pants, coffee, and Nikes. Other days, I recognize how truly blessed I am surrounded by love and kindness.

4. Ask for Help

Don’t do it alone. That sucks and it’s stupid. Ask for help from friends and family. Call a crisis line. There are resources. Use them! You do not have to suffer. People are there to help you. Don’t feel guilty. If your loved one ask you for help, would you ignore them? I doubt it.

And lastly, 5. Take Care of Yourself!

Self-care is sooo important. SLEEP 8 hours. Read a good book. Watch a funny show on Netflix. Laugh. Dance. Go to the gym. Go for a walk. Go tanning. Plan a dream vacation! Have a bath. Paint your nails. Paint some canvas. Take a class you’ve never tried before. Get a massage or pedicure. Run. Play outside. Go shopping. Hug someone. Make a delicious dinner or dessert.

Do something nice for yourself. You absolutely 100% deserve it.

I hope this helps. It works for me so I am passing it along and hope it may work for you.

Love, Katie xo

 

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How To Get Out of a Funk.

Haven’t made a blog post in awhile because of total funkiness. My poor mood and self-pity party got me thinking……So what to do? How do I get out of a funk?!
We all know that can be very difficult sometimes especially if I’m (wait for it): tired, lonely, cold, cranky, hungry, headachey, PMS-y, sore, sick, busy, not enough time, feel fat, nothing to wear, etc. Insert LAME EXCUSE Here.
Honestly, I’ve been through a big ol’ rock bottom and made it out alive! Indeed, I did learn some stuff along the way on how to get out of a funk. Let me tell you what helped me and take what works for you.
1. GRATITUDE! Always start here. Always. Make a list of 3 things every single day that you are grateful for. I do this every morning with my coffee. Sometimes it’s easy! I could list like a million things. Other days, it’s like: I can read (think, see, walk, play, laugh, cry, be alive) yay! Sunshine, lollipops.
2. Be present. Don’t regret and dwell on the past. And don’t worry about the future. It hasn’t happened yet. Serenity Prayer the crap out of everything! Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can.
Try meditation. There are apps like headspace that will give you a ten minute meditation every day and it’s free. Or YouTube. Bexlife has 4 minute meditations. And she’s Sa’Cute.
3. Remember that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be in this moment. Trust in a power greater than yourself. You cannot control what happens in life, but you can control your attitude and how you respond.
4. Feel the feelings. Don’t eat them! Katie B! (I tell myself), a box of Apple jacks will not actually make you feel better. Duh. Also, writing out your feelings in a journal or talking with someone you trust helps loads.
5. Stop the negative thinking. Recognize it, forgive yourself, and replace it with something nice. Do not tell yourself anything you would not say to a friend. I would never say to anyone, especially my friends, “you are fat and disgusting and not very smart, why do you keep effing up?” So why the heck would I say that to myself?! Which leads finally to ….
6. Treat Yo’self. Self-care! Get your nails did, hair did, everything did. Shower! Even if that’s all you can do that day. Exercise IS self care. So do not forget it. Walk for 15 minutes. Yoga, hula hoops, lifting heavy shit, etc. I guarantee you will not regret it.

Remember that true happiness comes from within you.
Hug yourself and love yourself today and then go hug someone else too while you’re at it,
Katie xo